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Showing posts with label work issues. Show all posts
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Thursday, November 14, 2013

You Can't Take Me There

Tonight, while lurking on FB, I ran across some virtual beef between a few folks. The reason for the beef, isn't my issue, my concern lies with allowing people to take you "there". You know that place that only a person who means you no good can take you to. "There" is the place that will make you lose what little religion you have, it may even cause you to do something stupid.

I'm not immune, people have taken me "there" on plenty of occasions. Some people know what sets me off and if they are having a bad day, they like to take you along for the ride. This advice is as much for me as for anyone else, we have to stop allowing people to take us out of our zone.   Even my daughter has this problem. When she has a bad day at school, she often says "so and so, did this or that and that's why I did what I did". I'm trying to teach her that she, and she alone, is in control of her destiny. How she chooses to respond to stumbling blocks is her responsibility and that choice with ultimately define what type of adult she will become. We are judged by the decisions we make and when the decisions are bad or yield bad results, people rarely consider the circumstances that caused us to act a certain way. We end up looking like idiots, while the other person has moved on to terrorize their next victim.  I hope she gets it early, because I've only recently learned this lesson for myself.

Some people crave drama and discontent; not me. I am choosing to block folks that get in my spiritual space. Will I always adhere to my own advice? Who's to say, it really depends. I just know that some things are worth the drama, but most things are not.

Be Blessed!

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Getting To My Happy Place

I think I've reached the time in my life where I realize nothing is what I thought it would be.
I'm not where I thought I would be and I'm no where near that "place". I have to figure out my plan B because plan A didn't work so well. I have to stop relying on others to be happy and figure out how to get to happy on my own. I think I can get there but I'm not sure who will be there when I finally reach that happy place. What I do know is for once in my life, I'm finally ready to take things to the next level and shake things up a bit. The excitement is intoxicating and terrifying at the same time.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Reduce, Reuse, Recycle...

We've all heard the Recycling catchphrase "Reduce, Reuse, Recycle" which originally refers to decreasing plastic, aluminum or paper waste. That's fine if you're trying to save the planet, but what if we actually took those words and applied it to life?

Reduce - This isn't as easy as using a water filtration system instead of buying water bottles. I mean reducing the negative energy in your space. We need to stop making excuses for keeping negative influences in our lives. We all have that person who sucks the life out of us just by walking in the room. What about the job you go to everyday, not because you WANT to but because you HAVE to? The cheating mates, the drama filled relationships, the junk food; it all HAS TO GO! Purge your life of bad people and bad habits and watch the atmosphere begin to shift in your favor.

Reuse - Now typically this would mean refilling a water bottle, or saving that Ziploc bag for another use. In this instance, I say take what works for you and keep doing it. I'm not saying don't think outside the box or don't rock the boat, more like "use what you got to get what you want". I think this is easy once we know what we "got". If you need to make some extra money, think about the skills you may have learned at previous jobs and put them to use in a new way. Have you worked in the customer service industry for a long time? Use that experience to teach a class on customer service skills. Do you love to shop and have an eye for fashion? Why not try to become a Personal Shopper or start your own Concierge business. The possibilities are endless. Once you know who you are, and what you have to offer, everything else will fall into place. Remember, there's a market for everything.

Recycle - This one can be tricky but it's all about taking something "old" and making it "new" again. I like to think of this as turning negative energy into positive energy (you know, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade). Did you get laid off or worse, get fired? Maybe this is God's way of telling you it's time to start that business you've been thinking about. If you can't get promoted because you don't have a degree, don't give up, use this time to go back to school. Lots of schools offer online classes now so NO MORE EXCUSES! Whatever it is that has you down, understand it's not over, it's just time to re-evaluate your situation and press forward.

A new outlook, a new focus, a new strategy could literally save your life. The time is now. We need to get busy and live instead of watching everyone else live. I don't want to be like the Joneses, I want to be the Joneses.

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Ode to the Non- Effective "Leader "

The older I get, the harder it is for me to put up with stupidity and ignorance. These days, I really find it quite difficult to converse with people who have no clue about the subject at hand or life in general.

Some people go through their lives oblivious to the world around them but expect you to resepect their opinions and authority. I have news for you, just because you are in a "leadership" role does not make you an effective leader. An effective leader knows that in order to be a good leader you must first have a strong foundation. An effective leader can engage in fruitful discussions with at least a basic knowledge of the subject. An effective leader will allow you to express your concerns without fear of retaliation. An effective leader embraces the strengths in the people around them. An effective leader allows others to feel valued and appreciated. An effective leader knows how to motivate peopele when the chips are down.
So the next time you are sitting at your desk, giving out misguided information, think about the qualities of an effective leader, realize you are not one, and send in your resignation letter.

Monday, October 26, 2009

H1N1 virus hasn't improved personal hygiene!!ugh

Just another example of why people make me sick, literally. The H1N1 virus is real and people are dying. So please tell me why some of my co-workers insist of leaving the restroom without washing their hands. By my account, this building is probably swarming with all types of bacteria and viral infections simply because people don't bother with personal hygiene. I just don't understand it. Please be nasty on your own time, don't force your poor habits on others. PLEASE PLEASE WASH YOUR HANDS...someones life may depend on it. Okay the rant is over and I'm done with this one for now. :)